Shame As Intuition Killer

by Seulki

You may know by now that feeling shame is the number one way to lower your vibration. Or if you didn't know this, it probably feels right when you hear it.

How I would phrase it is "believing in" your shame - because shame, any shame - for any reason, any amount - in my opinion, is a false social condition that doesn't serve you in any way whatsoever.

Shame basically makes you feel bad about yourself for being yourself. And the only reason you would ever feel shame is if you think you would be rejected for being who you are. We first got trained to feel shame when we realized that our mothers would reject us for anything that felt like a "natural" want or need. Especially if this is something that overwhelmed our mothers, and that they couldn't provide for us. Then we probably were made to feel shame for wanting or needing that thing to begin with.

Or for expressing a part of ourselves that our mothers rejected in themselves. If we easily laughed and thought highly of ourselves when our mothers were tight and thought lowly of themselves, we were made to feel shame. If we had a high, beautiful vibration that made our mothers envious, then we were shamed for it. Nowadays, you can also insert "romantic partner" for whatever "mother" stood for in the past. So now, the threat of being rejected by either our mother or romantic partner can cause us to feel shame.

The other threat of rejection we felt growing up was the threat of being rejected by the group. All societies have their idiosyncratic fads of what is in and what is out. If we had a certain kind of body in the 1700's, we might feel shame or rejected at that time whereas the exact same kind of body might be celebrated 200 years later. Similarly, 150 years ago we might be rejected and even killed for being suspected of witchcraft, whereas right now even Urban Outfitters is getting on the witch bandwagon.

So as you can see, whatever would cause rejection from society is pretty arbitrary and changes all the time. In which case, I would argue that societal opinion holds no water and shouldn't be anything to measure your self-value against.

And so, if shame is dependent on being rejected by whatever makes our mothers feel comfortable or uncomfortable - or society comfortable or uncomfortable - shame is just a mental manipulation tool. It's a tool that we use on ourselves to change our own behavior to make other people feel more comfortable. It has nothing to do with ourselves, and our own truths. It has nothing to do with expressing ourselves and giving our gifts to the world. It has everything to do with not triggering other people based on their egocentric needs.

And therefore, if you "believe" in your shame, then you have subscribed to the idea that what other people feel is more important than what you feel. And in fact, feeling whatever you naturally feel is "bad," and therefore makes you aberrant, not normal and worthy of being rejected. If you "believe" this, most likely you also believe that you are not lovable. And this is the original "sin" that I think makes most humans suffer the most of any mental mistake they could ever make.

Not believing you are lovable is the source of much of the suffering in the world, and actually truly believing this makes shame that much more easy to believe as well.

Shame is very easy to "catch," as it is a vibration that gets passed around like a mental disease. We probably absorbed a lot of the shame of our parents and also of whatever type of micro-culture we grew up in. Hiding family secrets from the church, school, or neighbors is a pretty common occurrence for most of us growing up. And as you can see, believing in this shame reinforces the idea that we are bad or that we are unlovable.

And this is the opposite of having a high stable vibration. This is also the opposite of being intuitive. And any kind of addiction to shame, meaning - believing it when you feel it pass through your body - is to actively lower your vibration and agree to not being intuitive, and not being in your power.

Believing in your shame is a choice. It's all up to you. It IS in your power. And when you choose to NOT believe your shame, you really open yourself up to the higher vibrational possibilities of life.

When you believe in your shame, you are very vulnerable to crossing your own boundaries in order to please your mother, partner, or society. When you put others' experience as primary, you are putting yourself secondary. And to do this over and over again you most likely are violating your own truth and your own values. You are probably hurting yourself in a way that translates to physical pain in your body. Did you know that being rejected causes physical pain in your body? Well, guess what happens when you reject yourself?

Thus, believing in the shame that you might temporarily experience (catching a cold also happens from time to time), means that you agree to hurting yourself on a physical level. And therefore, you are not safe with yourself. If you are not safe with yourself, you do not trust yourself. And as a result, it is VERY HARD to hear your intuition.

Because your intuition always has your highest good in mind. Your intuition is your personal GPS system for your greatest spiritual growth. And if you are rejecting this in order to fit in with your family, partner, or group, then you are actively going AGAINST your intuition, in order to favor the other person's experience over your own. Meaning, you don't care what your intuition says as long as someone else doesn't reject you.

In order to listen to your intuition, you have to be willing to be in your truth. This seems like an obvious statement, but it is easily overlooked by many. People "want" to be intuitive, and yet they also don't want to change anything in their lives. They don't want to leave a relationship that is already dead. They don't want to tell their mothers the truth. They don't want to stick out and have an outlying opinion, when everything in their body is saying that this is not right or that their truth is to leave everything behind.

So many people I know would quit their jobs, do something more pleasurable but less lucrative, leave their deadbeat partners, or stop giving energy to their mothers if they listened to their intuitions. But they don't. They don't do any of these brave acts, since they care more about the other than they care about themselves. They don't want to "hurt" anyone - which is another way of saying that they choose to hurt themselves rather than follow their intuition.

So basically, you can choose. You can choose your intuition. Or you can choose shame. You can't have both, because one actively kills the other. The more intuitive you are, and the more you act on your truth, the less shame has power over you, since being YOU is absolutely more important than anything else on Earth. Including the egotistical and small-minded feelings of others.

If you choose to put other people's experiences as primary. Then sure, do that. But you will never be intuitive. And you will never have a high stable vibration. Since a high vibration and being intuitive come hand-in-hand.

Fear mentality. I'm not good enough mentality. Afraid of being rejected - all of this belongs to the lower vibrations that society and trauma-riddled mothers seem to be addicted to.

If your mother hasn't done her healing work, why do you agree to her reality? If society at large, or the group hasn't done their healing work, why do you agree to their reality?

It's true, once you "open" your intuition, you will be different. You will stand out. Since many things that the group agrees to won't sit well with your body, and you will have to disagree to be in your truth. But I argue it's better to be truly yourself and at your highest possible vibration than to be accepted by many low vibration people. You'll have to experience it to believe it. But for many people, they are too addicted to the group to even venture this far.

Don't believe your shame. It's not a feeling. It's a social condition.

It causes you to value the experience of others over your own. And as a result, you will never open your intuition and be in your full power.

If you feel shame, DON'T BELIEVE IT. Remember, it's not a true feeling. Just imagine, that every time you feel shame, you are experiencing a lie. A lie only works if you agree to it. So stop agreeing that you are not lovable. And start agreeing to yourself.